“What if this is not the darkness of the tomb, but the darkness of the womb?”
– Valarie Kaur‬  (My friend Jocelyn Davis shared this timely quote this week.)

January was a roller-coaster ride of ups and downs, hopes, fears, and failed expectations, as the people of the world grappled with the pronouncements of a new government.

In the midst of that my granddaughters were born on January 12th.

With joy in my heart, and hope for the future, I watched events unfold.

I feel deeply for those who fear that their voices and concerns will be marginalized and ignored. But more deeply I feel the importance of claiming our ability to create a better world for ourselves, our families, and our global communities.

I refuse to give this power away.

I believe that we are at the ending of a long territorially-based human existence – one that builds on fears about the “other”.

We are in the midst of an emerging interdependent and interconnected world. Our young people know this to be true.

It makes sense that many people are now afraid of being disenfranchised and left out of the economy. And it makes sense that people would want to have a strong leader, one who says he will solve these problems by making “us” safer within.

We are entering into a middle passage, as a new world of global interconnection and interdependence emerges. Both business people and humanists are united that the only way forward for the world is together. We eat food grown in other countries; we drive cars built in other countries. Ideas and infections both cross “borders”. People move around the world to take advantage of the best opportunities (as they always have.). Within this a deep vein of bigotry is being exposed that is no longer viable.

The job now is to be a stand for the future, for a world that works for all. We ignore this at our peril.

Our family was blessed in January to welcome in Catherine and Eleanor, both named for their grandmothers. They are beautiful, intelligent, and eager to take on the world.

I have faith in my children and grandchldren. They will usher in this new interconnected era. I look to their leadership and send love, hope, and gratitude for what they will bring to the world. I am positive and optimistic and glad that they are strong and good-hearted. We will be in good hands. We have given them all that we had and trust that they will move forward in just and humane ways.

My friend and mentor, John Humphrey, always the teacher, asked me to look up the word “Liminal” this week and this is what I found:

Liminal: Transitional stage of a process; occupying a position at, or on both sides of a boundary or threshold. (From the Latin for Threshold). In the “middle” when participants no longer hold their existing status, but have not yet begun the transition to the status they will hold when the process is complete, there can be ambiguity and disorientation.

Here are my requests of you (and of myself) in this liminal period. Can we:

Be bold and good hearted.
Define our purpose, clarify our goals, and move forward with grace and dignity.

Get support. We will need it.

Don’t let ourselves be distracted by a call to return to the past.
Don’t waste our adrenaline on fears about the future.

Keep doing the right thing. Keep standing up for what is right even when we think our voice isn’t being heard.
Keep loving.

Are you ready to gain insight about your next steps, about a relationship that matters to you, about a chapter you are closing, or a result you dearly want to accomplish? If you find you need more support to move through this important transition, please contact me at joan@joanbragar.com




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